Let’s see…

I went to New York on Tuesday for the day. Wondered why there was garbage everywhere. Learned New York doesn’t have alleys (weird!). Ate in an Italian joint that felt like a movie with all the Italian dudes talking business in a corner table with their laptop and fancy water out. I hailed cabs unsuccessfully and walked around aimlessly in heels because I had no idea where I was. Mixed and mingled at Mashable’s NextUpNYC event. Drank wine and ate popcorn because I’m classy like that. Met up with some fabulous New York ladies and showed them how awkward I really am in real life. Missed out on meeting some of my absolute favorites. Ate a horribly overpriced burger and french fries you could taste the grease in at the airport. Proceeded to feel sick all day from it. Learned never to eat at Cheeburger Cheeburger again. Watched 3 episodes of The Dog Whisper on the flight home because Jet Blue rules with the tvs in the headrests.

I can’t wait to go back. And hey, I was only in New York for one day so just imagine what can happen when I get back there?

Then I came back home to reality. I’m not a fan of it these days.

I much prefer the jetset life. You don’t have time to think that way.

It all came rushing back as soon as I got home. I’m trying to do the right thing but I don’t know what the right thing is. I try following advice but then run back screaming in the other direction after trying because it hurts too much. I feel like people will judge me for the decisions I make and how I choose to deal with things. When that happens, I go back to my best friend who is the one everyone is telling me I need to stay away from. But he’s the only one who gets it.

I’m still trying to figure it all out.

(Please try not to be all Judgey McJudgerson in your comments because I KNOW you think I’m being stupid and this isn’t how I should do things)

How does one adjust when the person you’ve been involved with for five years isn’t feeling the same anymore? They were your lover and your best friend all rolled into one but for them the timing just isn’t right anymore.

Can you still be friends when one is so heartbroken?

Do you stop trying to be friends because it hurts too much?

Or try because it hurts too much to lose them completely?

It’s like I can’t win.

It hurts too much to try but I can’t imagine my life without him in it, whatever role he may have.

I don’t know what to do.

I don’t have my boyfriend.

I don’t have my best friend.

I never felt more alone than I do right now even though I’m surrounded by people who care.

I’m lost.

Hi, I’m brandy and I write here. Jamie asked me if I wanted to do a guest post for her and I said ‘yes! absolutely!’, because I have it on good authority Jamie will one day own the internet and I want to be on her good side when that happens.

You know when you have an idea that’s so crazy that you have to write about it? Like, that time you decided to go a week only drinking things  from a funnel? Or that time you went to Mexico and got a gang member to explain to you what each of his tattoos meant when you bumped into him in an alley? Or that time you voted *Republican?

That’s what todays post is like. After getting 4 random emails in the last week asking for dating advice, from both bloggers and real life friends, I thought I would impart some tips for the ladies about relationships.  Why is this idea so ridiculous? It could be because I’m currently as single as humanly possible. So much so that asking me for relationship advice is similar to asking Tara Reid tips on sobriety. It’s just a silly idea. But, I thought it would be fun to try and everyone needs a good laugh during a long week. So open up your knowledge basket, because I’m about to fill it up.

1. If a person likes you- YOU WILL KNOW. Stop. Re-read that first sentence. Now read it again. AND AGAIN. Read it until it is carved into your memory, burned into your eyeballs. Read it until you choke on it. Guys don’t play hard to get, so if he IS hard to get? Then he’s not the guy for you. Move along. Trust.

2. Sure, relationships are work but if it’s more work and less play, more tears than laughter, more Ike and less Tina then it’s not worth it. Relationships ARE work, but a relationship shouldn’t feel like a full time job, unless you are getting paid. And if you are getting paid for sleeping with the guy? Then you are a hooker and not a girlfriend and this post doesn’t apply to you.

3. Make up sex is hot, but you know what’s even hotter? Compromising so you don’t argue in the first place. Okay, that’s a lie but you could try it and see if it works for you.

4.”I’m sorry” doesn’t fix things as quickly as “I was wrong” does. But, sometimes it’s nice to hear both, so say each when you mean it.

5. If you have sex in person, you need to dump them in person. If you’ve only had phone sex, you can dump them on the phone, but I assure you, a message left on a machine is just not classy.

Any tips you feel should be on the list?

*Kidding. I promise. I miss politics. Let’s still be friends?

I finally got out of the house yesterday. I had to run to Target for a “few things”, of course those “few things” ran me about $90. You know how it goes with Target. Well that doesn’t include the stuff I buy for my family now, because my mother can’t be bothered anymore since she is almost home free. That is another entry entirely though, which will be coming soon.

Anyway, I picked up a movie I have been wanting to see for awhile: Paris, je  t’aime

I can’t wait to sit down and watch it. Could I be on  French movie kick? Seriously. This is obviously the closest I am going to get to Paris, until I either 1) come upon some money somehow or 2) get a real job.

Then of course, boyfriend and I had to hit up the classiest of the classy restaurants, Hooters. Shut up. If you have ever had wings there, you wouldn’t have anything to say. Plus, the cheese fries! Good lord, the cheese fries! Tell me why I go there yesterday and the decide to change things up? This girl brings out these nasty seasoned fries and are most definitely not the carb-y goodness that I go to that place for.  Even the jalapeño cheese could not save them from their awfulness. Hooters, you are not my friend until you bring back my french fries and I am AWESOME. You want me as your friend.

After a disappointing meal that left me craving french fries still, we went home where William helped me seperate a big bag of Starbursts into 2 baggies, pinks and reds in one and yellows and oranges in another. I only will eat the pink and reds, him being the amazing boyfriend that he is, takes all the other ones off my hands. That is love, people. He gives up all the pink and red Starbursts for me, when we all know, those are the best! We also started to watch I’m Not There but by 8:30, I was falling asleep. The sickie-ness is still not completely gone. Almost, but not quite. So far, what I have noticed is Cate Blanchett is amazing in it though!

Thank you all for the well wishes and and the new sites to check out. Stuff White People Like is probably the best blog ever. Thanks Erin and CDP for that!  Happy Tuesday! Yay for short weeks!

Here is just two of the many reasons why:

1) I gave my boyfriend an awesome card and a bag full of his favorite snacks for Valentine’s Day.

2) I bought him tickets to this today:

I was listening to the radio this morning and Drex broached the topic — can people in relationships have friends of the opposite sex? Now this has nothing to do with my own relationship, I just thought it would be interesting to see what everyone had to say. Can girls have a best guy friend when they are in a relationship and vice versa? Is it a trust issue? Is it just jealousy? Should someone have to give up their best friend because they are now in a serious relationship? Would you give up your best friend for your relationship if your partner was uncomfortable with it?

Thoughts?

P.S. Virginia and I are awesome. Those Chester French boys gave us a shout out on both their myspace and facebook blogs. This is even more of a reason you should go check them out if you haven’t. They are obviously very cool, down to earth dudes.

P.P.S. I see a lot of designs by Cuppycake Designs popping up! They are all looking quite fabulous. Go get one of your own!