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July 2, 2009 | family, what the fuck is wrong with people

You know what bothers me?

Family.

Not just my immediate family…. the whoooooole family.

Why all of a sudden do they have to be all hip with the times and discover the internet?

It was bad when Myspace was at the peak of it’s annoyance and they decided to OMG! FRIEND ME! and leave me blinkey, glitter gifs of an angel with devil horns that say, “MUCH LUV 4 MY CUZ!” on my comments page.

I mean Myspace wasn’t so bad since I logged in every three months so I could basically ignore most of it and still let them feel “connected”.

But now they are moving on to Facebook. Seriously. I’ve dodged quite a few family friendship requests. My internet presence is splattered way too much over my Facebook profile and I’d rather them not be that involved. My big ass Mexican family is way too nosy and too gossipy and will be all up in my shit.

I know all they have to do is google me to find this blog, I’m sure, but I’m hoping they still haven’t figured out googling people. You never know, I mean they did join Myspace like 37 years too late.

Does this make me a bad a person?

I guess I could do limited profiles for certain people but I think that’s a pain in the ass to set up. I have better things to do than to fuss with that. You know, like read through the whole Chicago Public Library (hi, two books in a day and a half).

But the day my third cousin once removed’s aunt’s daughter follows me on Twitter, I’m breaking the internet and only allowing limited access to people.

THE WHOLE INTERNET.

So be nice and stay away from my social media, family, or I’ll take your internet away.

For good.

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oh so you got that friends request too

My brother just got a facebook. It freaks me out… There are some very incriminating photos/videos out there…
.-= Jackie´s last blog ..Wednesday Weirdness? =-.

Thankfully people in my family either don’t have the time for all sorts of social media or don’t know they exist.

Hopefully they’ll never have time or ever know they exist!
.-= Marie´s last blog ..More Searches and Finds =-.

Clearly my family is a skewed version of family and internet, but I have no problems having my entire family on my Twitter, Facebook or blog. We’re a pretty close and tight knit fam, which I love and I want to keep it that way. I did have to go through my Facebook and untag pretty much every photo from University, but I should have done that long ago anyways. There are a few times where there are things I wish I could say on the internet that I can’t bc of family reading, but I’ll survive!
But, life is all about figuring out what works for you. So,good luck with the fam.
.-= Leah´s last blog ..Long time no talk =-.

The first time my aunt facebook friended me I was like OH NO THE WORLD HAS ENDED. I have since forgotten that shes on my friends list. I think she’s also forgotten about facebook.

Then I heard my mother is thinking of joining. This is BAD NEWS.
.-= ashley´s last blog ..A Little of This, A Little of That, and Something About Blue Underwear =-.

There will come a time Jamie, when you just have to own it. I blame facebook because now my WHOLE family reads my blog. It was weird at first…

you know, until they started telling me how much my writing is EXACTLY like how I am. After that initial embarassment period it’s not so bad… because now I get emails from family members that I used to NEVER talk to. And its kind of awesome.

Kind of.
.-= Matt´s last blog ..Finding Perfection =-.

I’m totally cool with my generation of family (i.e. my sister and cousins) being on Facebook. But parents and aunts and uncles? No no.
.-= Jess´s last blog ..Making credit cards work for you =-.

Oh, GOD do I feel you on this! My Facebook profile is for my FRIENDS to see. I do not want my family viewing it. The only family member I’m facebook friends with is my niece and that’s because we’re only 6 years apart in age. I deny, deny, deny those of my family and coworkers. I’m more into social media for the SOCIAL aspects, not the networking aspects! Ugh. Seriously!
.-= chasingparadise´s last blog ..Snapped. Bridal style. =-.

My grandma has a facebook.

My family could never find my blog because I’m anonymous, haha! If they ever did, I think I’d have to kill myself. Waaay too much personal stuff on there.
.-= Taylor´s last blog ..Yes, I am a Material Girl =-.

I would simply die if any family member found my blog. My mom is on facebook but has never tried to add me (thank god) and I wouldn’t add her anyways… there’s just some things you dont need your family knowing!!
.-= Reinventing Amy´s last blog ..SSB: Secret Single Behavior =-.

Ouch that’s the worst. My mom is on facebook and has added my friends. I mean, seriously?
.-= Meghan´s last blog ..I Like Birthday Bumps =-.

Here, here! Sucks.

I took my blog off being published as notes on FB and I think that makes me feel more candid. Like, they actually have to go to my blog to read it, not passively see it.

My mom has it, too. I thinking of having a limited profile for any family person or younger person or person I don’t like too much.

You know there is just one family member who I cannot stand and OMG I had to block her from facebook because she kept sending me requests. Like more than five. It was ridiculous. I normally wouldn’t care so much because she already reads my blog, but she’s like ultra-stalker and the fact that facebook has that news feed, I just really could do without her being able to track my every move. If she asks, I will just say facebook is for my friends and she’s welcome to continue stalking reading my blog.
.-= Steph´s last blog ..Classy Cuisine =-.

My family knows where I am everywhere on the internets, but the great thing is that they are more self-involved than I am, so I know that they know where I am, but they really don’t give a shit. Fabulous.

Dude. Yesterday my sister’s step dad (we have the same father) friended me on Facebook. And today? Today her mom friended me too. WTF? I thought they didn’t like me my whole life…
.-= Jaime´s last blog ..Writers Block? =-.

My Uncle just joined facebook this week, so funny you should mention it.

I actually don’t care much about family being on facebook. I already have a bunch of cousins on it. I keep my profile and pictures clean, so no worry about scandal. And even with my blog – I promote it, so i’m not too concerned. But I could see why people wouldn’t like it.
.-= Lauren´s last blog ..Looking Back: January 2008 =-.

my family isn’t too annoying on facebook, it’s my coworkers that drive me crazy. i ended up creating a separate group to keep them out of my business.
.-= Sarah´s last blog ..Brand New Bag =-.

You sing it, Sister.
My father follows me on Twitter and friended me on facebook.
Of anyone he’s the last one I want to be all up in my online presence so OF COURSE he decided to get all internet savvy.
Lame.
.-= Shaba´s last blog ..When I’m Old Wednesday =-.

Limited profiles actually aren’t that hard to create!
.-= Angela´s last blog ..Date Night =-.

I relate completely.

I was on Facebook for about 15 minutes before my mother in law sent me a friend request. Then the next day, she talked my mom into joining. Now my whole flipping family is on facebook.

And my blog was originally somewhat anon. No one in my real life knew about it. Then my hubby went and outed me because he was too lazy to email photos…now everyone knows about my blog (including people he works with!).

My last corner of the internet that hasn’t been invaded is Twitter. My husband joined but his geek friends don’t use it so he only longs in once every couple of months. And my mom started a page but is following someone with my first and last name that isn’t me – waiting to see how long it takes her to figure out it isn’t me. Heh. But I don’t want my family finding me on Twitter – it is the only place I can complain about them! LOL

My family is on facebook but none has invaded twitter, or my blog I hope. I will get seriously pissed. I don’t really censor stuff there.

ugh – I know what you mean. My mother-in-law friended me on facebook. and then my head melted.
.-= hillary´s last blog ..What’s Your Dirty Hassle =-.

Luckily my family is awesome for the post part and I don’t mind the few that are on my FB and a couple on twitter. But yeah, I totally get it!
.-= Alyssa´s last blog ..Crafting Update =-.

my aunt just friended me on facebook and it freaked me out. luckily i don’t think my parents will be joining facebook or twitter any time soon, whew.
.-= katelin´s last blog ..To iphone or not to iphone? =-.

God, I HATE family on the internet, and thank god I only have to deal with 2: my parents. I think my parents know better than to try to Friend me, it will just be ignored!
On the other hand, my parents are QUITE savvy with le Google and could easily find me if I used my real name. Hence, the anonymity.
.-= SassyGirl´s last blog ..Total Insanity =-.

Limited profiles are a snap to set up. It will take you 10 minutes, tops.
I don’t get the issues that nearly everyone is having here. Echoing Leah (my sis), our family obviously is a “skewed version of family and internet.” Facebook has strengthened my relationships with my family members – especially those that I don’t see very often. I’m friends with my cousins, aunts, uncles (from both my family and my husband’s family), my mom’s cousins, the works. My ongoing Scrabble tournament with my aunt is one of my favorite things about Facebook.
Matt said it well. OWN IT!
.-= Erica´s last blog ..Canadian, Please! Happy Canada Day! =-.

Most of my dad’s side of the family is on Facebook. Which is nice in one way, ’cause I haven’t seen any of them in years. But I also got to watch what I post. When I mentioned that I bought some Birkenstocks a few weeks ago (I returned them because they tore up my arches), my punk-rocker Dad replied, “Hippie! Are you going to buy some Crocs next?”

Yeah, the Mamones are definitely an interesting bunch!
.-= Travis´s last blog ..Taking a Break =-.

Aw, I love my family on facebook!! I only wish there were more of them on there!! Granted, I do leave my trashy photos on myspace where most of my family hasn’t discovered them. At least you’re family is more technologically advanced!!
.-= Pink Sun Drops´s last blog ..Little Tired =-.

*YOUR* family… geez, you know I’m buzzed when I type you are family instead of your (and I just typed type as tipe).
.-= Pink Sun Drops´s last blog ..Little Tired =-.

i’m a high school teacher and after the kids graduate, i tell them i’ll accept their friendships on facebook.

little do they know they can see about nothing. i limit the shit out of that profile.
my aunt, mom’s friends, and other judgemental people out there get the limited profile, too.

DO IT AND DON’T FEEL BAD ABOUT IT!

My ENTIRE family is on Facebook too, I really don’t mind though. Nobody knows about my blog or Twitter though and I really like it that way!
Two books in a day and a half? Wowza! What books did you read? I hate when I don’t have time to read, my goal is a book a week, but lately that hasn’t been hap]ening!!
.-= Amber´s last blog ..The Girls From Ames =-.

I’m Facebook friends with my sister and a few of my cousins. It doesn’t bother me too much, but I definitely think of it more of a place for my friends. My blog comes up if you google me too, and I’m always a little afraid of that, but I try not to think about it too much.
.-= Andrea´s last blog ..Mid-Year Resolutions =-.

lol Oh tell me about it… I was asked to explain Twitter at dinner last night and through the line of questioning all of the sudden everyone knew about my twitter account and what other social media it tied into lol

I swear, if my dad’s 75 year old doctor friend requests to follow me? I’ll *definitely* be taking a Twitter hiatus
.-= Kyla Roma´s last blog ..Who I am: The Hard Way =-.

When my brother tried to “friend” me, I decided to just plain ignore him. Cousins? Fine. Anything closer than that is too close for me. Friends’ parents? Also too close, damn it.
.-= HahnSolo´s last blog ..Can you tell me how to get to Sesame Street? =-.

Ha! So funny and so true. My parents are both on Twitter, but more so out of curiosity. My uncle has friended me on FB, but I’ve been “ignoring” him for a couple of weeks, despite my dad trying to convince me that “he won’t judge” me or my lifestyle… ummmm not exactly incentive.

Yeah- 14 year old cousins? Stay the F away. Thanks.
.-= Lily´s last blog ..Today is the Day I… =-.

Lol, it has definitely changed things since my family members started adding me on Facebook. I start thinking through everything I post. “So, how would my mother feel if she read this?”
Also, makes Facebook a bad place for venting about family.
.-= Katy´s last blog ..How to become one of my favorites (…if you’re a book/movie) =-.

I’ve had the same problem! I’ve ended up accepting most of their friendships, and so far it’s turned out that beyond being connected, they don’t bother looking at my profile at all, ever. It might be only a matter of time to see if they discover more, but despite the drama that could ensue, mostly I just don’t care. Heh.
.-= Phil´s last blog ..Must. Chill. Out. =-.

Luckily I don’t have a particularly big family, or this could have been a problem for me…
.-= Paula´s last blog ..TO . . . =-.

My preteen cousins just Facebooked me yesterday, and I didn’t know what to do. I granted their request but blocked them from seeing the link to my blog. I’m not sure their innocent minds could handle it
.-= The Modern Gal´s last blog ..We will not go quietly into the night =-.

Don’t you dare leave, though! YOU were here first! Nah nah nah, family!

Seriously, if my mom ever demanded to see my blog, like threatened me with a gun, I’d lie and tell her my alter ego was Jamie and send her to your blog. So much less cranky/offensive/whiny than mine.
.-= Rebekah´s last blog ..A little sneaky peek of the new blog =-.

“Oh no! My family has finally figured out how to find out who I REALLY am!”
I am totally with you on this one. It’s not so much my own parents… they already know I drink on Sunday,swear like a sailor, and occasionally break stupid laws so I can write about how fun it was on my blog…and I’m kind of ok with that. They made me. It’s there fault. But inlaws…well that’s a totally different story. I think my mother-in-law prefers to think I’m still a virgin. Until I produce a grandchild, any mention of my sex life is sure to horrify her.
.-= Kitty´s last blog ..On Spreading the Love… =-.

oh I can totally relate.

I feel that way about co-workers! I would die if they ever discovered either of my blogs. When they talk about FB I just say that I don’t do it, and when I get a request, I don’t accept or ignore, and when they bring I up I act as if I never saw it because ‘I really don’t do FB’. What a liar, I know!
.-= The New Black´s last blog ..Bought it! =-.

None of my family has yet to join Fbook ::knocks on wood:: but my boyfriend’s mom did. And she friended me. And that was sooooooo bizarre. Then my ex-boyfriend’s mom friended me, and life got more weird.

Damn internet.
.-= MinD´s last blog ..Twinkle, twinkle, little star. =-.

Ick. I totally know what you’re going through. Around Christmas, my dad’s ENTIRE FAMILY (of whom everyone is 50 or older) decided to join Facebook. Friend requests ensued, then invites to different applications and other stuff happened. And then, I updated my status one day and MY GRANDMOTHER commented to ask me what was wrong. Eh.

I don’t use Facebook much anymore.
.-= E.P.´s last blog ..Whip It Up Week 2: Guilty Pleasures =-.

dude. i totally think you could do that. i mean, your capable of breaking the internet. i believe you.

you have that kind of power. and i’m jealous.
.-= tia´s last blog ..Jupiter Freedom Giveaway. =-.

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