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February 26, 2009 | bloggers I adore, internin', relationships, travel

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I went to New York on Tuesday for the day. Wondered why there was garbage everywhere. Learned New York doesn’t have alleys (weird!). Ate in an Italian joint that felt like a movie with all the Italian dudes talking business in a corner table with their laptop and fancy water out. I hailed cabs unsuccessfully and walked around aimlessly in heels because I had no idea where I was. Mixed and mingled at Mashable’s NextUpNYC event. Drank wine and ate popcorn because I’m classy like that. Met up with some fabulous New York ladies and showed them how awkward I really am in real life. Missed out on meeting some of my absolute favorites. Ate a horribly overpriced burger and french fries you could taste the grease in at the airport. Proceeded to feel sick all day from it. Learned never to eat at Cheeburger Cheeburger again. Watched 3 episodes of The Dog Whisper on the flight home because Jet Blue rules with the tvs in the headrests.

I can’t wait to go back. And hey, I was only in New York for one day so just imagine what can happen when I get back there?

Then I came back home to reality. I’m not a fan of it these days.

I much prefer the jetset life. You don’t have time to think that way.

It all came rushing back as soon as I got home. I’m trying to do the right thing but I don’t know what the right thing is. I try following advice but then run back screaming in the other direction after trying because it hurts too much. I feel like people will judge me for the decisions I make and how I choose to deal with things. When that happens, I go back to my best friend who is the one everyone is telling me I need to stay away from. But he’s the only one who gets it.

I’m still trying to figure it all out.

(Please try not to be all Judgey McJudgerson in your comments because I KNOW you think I’m being stupid and this isn’t how I should do things)

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You’re not stupid! It’s all to easy to go back. We’ve all done it, so if we judge you, we’re judging ourselves. I say do what makes you happy. Your happiness is all that matters.

Right? Right.

Glad you enjoyed NY! I’m going back up there in JUly. I much prefer the jetsetting life as well.

As if I’d judge you on anything other than your gorgeous hair.

Please – what do you take me for?

Bens last blog post..I’m never going to hear the end of this one

I don’t think that moving forward is about cutting people out of your life, it’s about slowly shifting your focus back to you when before it was about focusing outward on other people, or on one person.

For me, investing in experiences and simple things like travel (yay!), reading up on things you want to know about were hugely helpful things. Eventually, the time you spend on your interests and your needs will bring you answers to what you need. Staying in touch isn’t a bad thing at all, just make sure you have a chance to spend time with you too and you’re do well.

And I’m glad you had such a great time in New York!

Kyla Beas last blog post..The Ex Blanket

SO SO SO sad that we didn’t get to meet up while you were in the city! Ugh, and that stupid meeting ended up being 4 hours of torture!! But I’m glad you had such a great visit and if/when you come back, we’re meeting up even if I have to take a day off work to do it haha!

Stealthnerds last blog post..THON 2009 TOTAL: $7,490,133.87

It’s always so hard and you need a lot of time to feeling good again. Try doing new things and always keep busy (although you seem to be doing a lot of stuff!).

hugs to you and just remember this takes time

Maries last blog post..I Ashed

I love New York. Okay, I’ve only been once, and I was only about eight or nine at the time, but I still remember it. And I loved it. I want to go back.

Megans last blog post..optimism is my anti-drug

You are not being stupid! You have to do what’s right for you. I’m doing the same thing. I’m best friends with my ex and sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn’t, but I’d rather go through the pain and have him in my life than be without him. Do what YOU need to do, forget what everyone else says.

Jackies last blog post..My loves

I’m glad you got a little break this week. You deserve it. Hang in there, it will get better, I swear.

Lindsays last blog post..First

if anybody’s judging it’s becuase they’re pretending like they’ve got no clue what it’s like to be in your shoes.

at the end of the day – everyone just wants you to be happy and things to work out best for you. and while the happy probably won’t come for a bit, we also know that going to the source of unhappiness does not help get back to the happy either.

and now i will shut up because I sound like a dolt.

deutlichs last blog post..Dinosaurs Don’t Work

It has just occurred to me that perhaps there really is NOTHING classier than eating popcorn and drinking wine. I wish I’d thought of that.

Next time I snap a picture on dailybooth I’ll be the classiest chick around, I’ll dedicate it to you!

ultimately, the people who care the most about you, won’t judge you for your decisions even if they disagree <3 follow your heart gal.

and i totally agree about the jetset life…i don’t travel nearly enough

heidis last blog post..Randomness

I’m dealing with things my own way too. WHich for me, means I’m still his friend, I’m still talking to him, and I’m hoping to be back on the Hanging Out train soon too. It’s ok to handle things the best way you know how. Sometimes it makes it better, sometimes it hurts worse, but we’re always eventually able to move past things and we have to do it our way at our own pace

I’m pulling for you, girl. Keep yourself busy and use this as a chance to pour your heart into new endeavors and longtime passions.

It will be ok.

Oh good – I’m still a favorite. I thought maybe you were mad that I didn’t come out. I’m sorry, I’m an old man now. Weekend trip next time!

Chriss last blog post..get to it

You DEF must come back to New York! (I don’t live there anymore but I pretend). There are so many delicious burgers to eat (not at the airport, blech) and garbage to ignore and yes, even alleys! In some places, anyway.

I’m soooo judging you for being human.

Can you feel it?

JUDGE!!!!

Rachel M.s last blog post..Speak on a Guest Post

I’m so glad we finally got to meet! I had such a great time I wish I didn’t have to wake up so early and could have stayed out later. Next time!

ps. I’ll be emailing you tonight about the boy situation.

AshleyDs last blog post..OkCupid

No matter how many people love you or think they know you or think they know what’s best for you, only you know what’s best for you. And you’ll figure it out, even if you stumble a bit along the way.

SoMi’s Nilsas last blog post..Help

I’m not here to judge, I’m just here to be supportive. Like an internet posteurpedic chair. But comfier. With words.

Meghans last blog post..TMI Thursday It Was NOT Whisper Quiet

a day in NYC is absolutely better than nothing. i miss that city so much, i can hardly stand it.

if he gets it, end of story. no further explanation needed.

thatShortChicks last blog post..Commas will be the death of me*

girlfriend you are not being stupid, you are going to the place that you feel the safest when everything around you is going crazy. it’ ok – promise

alexa – cleveland’s a plums last blog post..lots of randomness rolled into one

It was great meeting you! Glad you were in town for the Mashable event so that we could all get introduced before the 20sb meet up in Chicago )

Who is judging you? They need a good old punch in the face, if you ask me.

Boyfriend and I were broken up for about a year a few years ago and I can tell you … it was the worst time of my life. I couldn’t handle seeing him (he was dating the girl that he cheated on me with while I was out of the country at the time, so that had something to do with it) and so I cut him completely out of my life and started from ground zero to build myself something that resembled a life.

But even though i say I “cut him out” whenever he would call, or I had the chance to go to a party at their place, I would be there with bells on because even though he was macking on *HER* the whole time, I just felt a little better being in the same room with him.

So – no judgment here! Plus, he’s going to China for 10 months starting in August so I will be feeling about how you are now soon. We should throw ourselves a bloggy-type pity party.

No judging here – it is impossible to tell someone else what to do when you’re not in their situation so you get nothing but support and hugs from me…

Princess Extraordinaires last blog post..Germ Warfare

Oh honey, I really feel for you because omg have I been there/done that! Every one kept telling me to just stop talking to him, don’t call him, don’t text him, etc. and when you go from being with someone all the time to…well, NOT…it’s not so easy to cut it off cold turkey. Bottom line is, it’s just going to take TIME. Do what feels best for you. If this is an amicable breakup, then he probably understands where you’re coming from. Sending lots of positive thoughts your way. xoxo

chasingparadises last blog post..A close call

No one should judge you for doing what you need to do while you’re figuring things out. You know what you need better than anyone else does.

Allies last blog post..Mannequin, McCarthy, Cusack, et al

no judging at all. i’m just waiting for your jet setting ways to bring you to california

It’s your life and you need to do what fits best for you and the situation at hand. If you listen to everyone else instead of listening to yourself, you’ll regret it even more.

Following your own instincts.

Mindys last blog post..Try explaining that to the grandkids.

New York I love you, but you’re bringing me down…BECAUSE I HAVE NEVER BEEN. Next time you, go, I’m inviting myself along.

Joy @ Big Time Fancys last blog post..Playlist

It’s hard. We’ve all been there. I don’t think anyone is judging you or will judge you. You two will figure out if the relationship is fixable or not. I think more or less the prior advice regarding not seeing and talking to him was more in line with if it’s definitely over. When it’s over, and there’s no way to fix it, that’s when the clean break can help you heal.

Noah LOVES cheeburger cheeburger…I can’t stand it. Luckily ours went out of business! Yay! No more Cheeburger Cheeburger!

Karis last blog post..Done

Sounds like a fantastic trip overall, I would love to embrace the jetset life…it’s been so long since I’ve been on a plane and I love flying.

As far as not knowing what to do…just keep doing what your heart says until your brain comes up with something. You can’t do things on any “schedule” but your own. AND whether you figure it out now or later, it’s your process and in the end it will be what’s best for you.

Loves.

Alexiss last blog post..five times five

You have to go back to NY and stay a little longer. You’ll love it even more. And no you are not being stupid. we deal with things differently and if that’w what makes you happy then go for it!

freeteymes last blog post..Casual Thursday…

In my genius, expert, all knowing opinion (I hope you got the sarcasm) I think only you can know what is right for you. Sometimes we do what feels safe and comfortable even though we know it isn’t right.

If something feels off, then it probably is. Only you know that so it’s really no one else’s decision!

I hope I am making sense. At the end of the day, if you feel comfortable with whatever decision you make, then you made the right choice.

mariss last blog post..Vanilla Bean Cheesecake Bars

My dream job would be something that let me travel. Live in the moment.

p.s. you are NOT awkward in real life, lady!

Maxies last blog post..TMI Thursday: The One Where I Show My Creative Genius

It’s nice that you got a little break from the real world for a day or so. And there’s nothing wrong with taking your time to figure things out. (:

E.P.s last blog post..Grace in Small Things, 9/365

Trust me – we’ve all been there. It’s hard when people tell you to do things a certain way, because no one can truly understand.

I hope you feel better – you deserve it

And I’ll be back in Chicago in a few weeks and you’re one of the only Chicago bloggers that I’ve missed out on meeting! Let’s remedy.

jenniferalaines last blog post..epic night.

“The wounds of love can only be healed by the one who made them.” Some Roman Dude From The Days of Yore.

And don’t let anyone else tell you otherwise. So do whatever you want/feel/need to do.

You’ll be ready to let go or move on or go back or whatever when YOU’RE ready.

xx

Hopes last blog post..The hardest thing of all

Every time I visited NYC, I thought I happened to be there on trash day. As it turns out, I think it’s like that every day? Still a fun place to visit.

Allies last blog post..Hacking Boxed Macaroni and Cheese

If there’s no alleys then where do the alley cats hang out???

As for your personal life, I hope you sort things out and are happy again soon.

Paulas last blog post..PUB CRAWL . . .

Screw *should*. Do you what you truly desire to do, and you will end up happy.

Pink Sun Dropss last blog post..Girl Time

Everyone deals with things in their own way. You’ll figure everything out soon. Don’t fret! Also, it was great meeting you at the Chicago Twestival a few weeks ago. I’m sure I’ll see you around at other events!

Leahs last blog post..Embracism, like being racist but not really

I can TOTALLY understand your desire for the jetset life vs. reality. I’m feeling the same way lately! Sounds like it was a great day in NYC!

remember momentss last blog post..~random thoughts~

Ughhhhh NEXT TIME! NEXT TIME! so close, we were so close!

Jessica Marias last blog post..My weekend home!

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