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In a situation like that, you can’t really try to hold on to old friendships because there is toooo much luggage that goes along with it, which inevitably opens old wounds.

It’s not going to be easy right now, but the only thing you can do is move on.

It gets better with time.

I promise.

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I’m so sorry. I know it’s just words and that can’t help, but I wish I was there to hug you. Feel what you feel, and do it in your timeline. Use your support system, and know that we’re all thinking bout you.

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you cry. alot. then you get a mani/pedi. then you come spend time with jenn and i. then you keep yourself distracted. you decide to do one thing that will be new a change. you cry. you call your friends whenever to vent because it is def okay and you can do it anytime day or night. you stay away. it is hard but you need a clean break. trust me on this. you stay away for a while until you are better and then you see hwere they fit in your life. they were your best friend/lover/everything but you can’t expect them to be the same. if you stick around when they arent it hurts more. seriously,come over to the apt for a girls night! hugs!

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I’m so sorry.

I’ve never been good at friendships until some time has passed because 1 party feels awkward and guilty and the other party feels sad and clingy or angry.

Girl friends and ice cream have always been the biggest help in break ups for me. But you do what works.

Sorry you are dealing with this. Break ups suck.

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It sucks, but a clean break was the only thing that worked for me. That, and turning to close friends to make a difference. They are the best resource, holding you when you need holding, listening, making you put down the phone if you’re about to do something regrettable…

I think in the end though, each relationship is different and each healing process is a little different. So I hope you find what’s best for you and get the kind of support that you need! I know it’s tough.

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I am so sorry you are hurting.

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This is the worst. I’m so sorry you have to go through this. I know it’s a total cliche, but day by day things will start to feel better. Sending you hugs.

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It hurts. A lot. My boyfriend of 5 years and I broke up in September. We’ve managed to stay friends so far, but sometimes I think it would be better if we severed all contact. I miss the boy I fell in love with. I miss my best friend. But I know he’s not the same guy anymore. There’s nothing we can do about it but live our lives to the best of our abilities. Stick close to your good friends. Don’t force it. If you’re sad, be sad, but if you’re having fun, don’t feel guilty. I’m sorry you’re hurting, but it’ll get better. I promise.

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i’m sorry jamie. my advice for you? as hard as it is right now you need to not be around him for awhile. even if it is just for two weeks or a month. you HAVE to separate yourself from him – it will get easier. but you have to be the hardass for a little while. he’ll realize how much he misses you.

xoxo

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I’m so sorry that you’re hurting, Jamie.
Perhaps a bit of space might give you some perspective? In my experience, forcing a friendship where there used to be a romantic relationship can be really painful (for both people involved.) Maybe a bit of time apart will clarify if you two can have a successful friendship.
I suggest lots of puppy cuddles to make you feel better. I’ll loan you Stella and Wolfgang

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You come to west virginia and you let your crazy friend get you really drunk.

or you just latch on to your friends– they’re your best resource right now.

you know i’m here if you need anything. i’m the queen of breakups

love you, jamie!

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my advice is that it’s really hard emotionally to try and be friends with an ex. i think you need to take some time for yourself to let your heart heal and if/when you feel you’re ready, tackle the friendship aspect of your relationship with your ex.

good luck!

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I’m so sorry hon. You of all people don’t deserve to hurt like this. But you need to be away from him as painful as that sounds. You can’t be friends right now because you were also more than just that.

Spend lots of time with friends and loved ones. Cry as much as you need to. Get as many hugs as possible. Be around those who can put a smile on your face.

So sorry sweet pea. lots of hugs to you.

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I’m sorry! I think really the only way to move on is to keep yourself busy and distracted. Then time will go by, and you’ll look back and realize that you’ve got this great life you’ve built that does not involve that person. But really I think you’ve got to kiss the relationship and the friendship behind. It’s the only way you can move on.

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Aww, Jamie! Chin up, dear. It will get better, I promise. Spend a lot of time with your friends, because they love you. Stay busy. Make a clean break if at all possible. Hopefully the friendship will come once you get some distance between you and the hurt. I’m always an email away!

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Hi Jamie,

My boyfriend of two years and best friend of nine broke up with me six months ago. It was by far THE hardest thing I have ever had to go through, but I can tell you that it DOES get better. I know it doesn’t feel that way now, and I never thought I’d say it out loud, but you will feel happy and light and like yourself again, it will just take time. I still struggle with where he fits in my life right now, but I can tell you the best thing I did for myself was ask him for three months of zero contact immediately after we broke up. No texts, no emails, no nothing. And it helped, a LOT. It was really hard at first, to get used to not having this person in your life that was there every single day, but space and time really do heal. Since then we’ve met for a couple of dinners, and have agreed to stay in touch for the big stuff (moving, job news, etc.) until we figure out how to do this. Because neither of us are at a place where we can let go completely. So all I can say is this: Do what feels right for YOU, because every situation is different. If it hurts too much, change it; if you aren’t moving on, find a way to do so; and if you need to keep him in your life for now, do it in the way that is healthiest for the both of you. And if you feel like shooting me an email, feel free. Sometimes an unbiased party, who’s been through something similar, can really help

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Aww, Jamie! What you need is space and time, unfortunately. You need to evaluate if you can just be friends, without feeling the gut-wrenching heartache everytime you see him. You need to evaluate yourself and remember the other things in your life that you are passionate about. You need to reach out to your friends for support. And yeah, you’ll need to cry a bunch too.

xo

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Oh Jamie, I’m so sorry.

I think you take it slowly, invest in things you find comforting, and give yourself some space.

I don’t think that there’s a hard and fast rule about what works, I’ve been friends right after only to have it peter out. I’ve have someone decide we can’t talk and then become incredibly close friends a year later. I think being honest with each other is the best thing.

Maybe agree to take time apart, but agree not to cut off the other person. If he calls, take his call. If you call, he should do the same thing. Take it slow and find out what works for you guys. Just because the Relationship is over doesn’t mean your relationship is over, and you have all the time in the world to find out what you both need from the other person.

My best advice is just take it slow. Watch black and white movies, and take it slow.

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Oh nooo I’m so sorry to hear. =( I think eventually you may be able to be friends but you should probably be in contact as little as possible until it won’t hurt to be around him. Until then, be with friends as much as possible, eat lots of chocolate, have some drinks, and cry whenever you feel like it. I hope you feel better soon!!!

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im so sorry jamie. just follow your heart and do what feels right. i dont think there’s a right or wrong answer here. thinking of you a lot.

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Oh Jamie, I’m so sorry. Losing someone like that is so hard. It seems like nothing you do is going to be right or make things easier. When C and I broke up (even though it was mutual) we decided we both still wanted to be friends. We’re working on it, but even 5 months later, it’s still hard. Now matter what you decide, it’s going to hurt and take tme to heal. I’m sorry you feel so lost. I’m here if you ever want to talk. *hugs*

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Okay, so basically you have a ton of opinions up there. But there’s no guarantee that any one is going to work for you. Kyla Bea is spot on – sometimes, it feels like there’s no way you can live without the person in your life, only to discover that in some ways, it’s easier not having them in your life. Alternately, you can take an immediate break from all communication and contact for a little while, which lets you become friends again later on. There’s no one way to go about it.

Take solace in hugs, blogging, venting as much as you need to, and doing things that make you happy. Whether it’s chowing down on Ben and Jerry or going out with friends and going out on the town, do what makes you feel okay. And if you want to lay in bed for a few days and watch old reruns of ANTM, do that too. There’s no right or wrong here.

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I know exactly how you feel! I just ended my 3 year relationship with my best friend and the best boyfriend ever. It’s always hard and confusing. I personally think that exes can still be friends. I am trying to still be friends with my ex. We just have so much history and we are so involved in each other’s lives, I wouldn’t know what to do without him. I’m always here if you need to talk. Do what feels right for you and what makes you happy. *hugs*

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I’m so so sorry. I think with this kind of thing, all you can do is take it one day at a time. I think it might be easier, at first, to let him go completely, just so you know you can go on without him, and then in time, try to find a way to be in each other’s lives in a new way. To go from being with each other to just being friends without a break to really figure out what that means is so difficult. It might seem harder now to let him go completely, but in the end, it might be healthier. Again, I know nothing anyone says will really help, so all I can say is you are so amazing and don’t deserve to feel alone. I’m so sorry.

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This was me seven months ago. Broke up with my best friend/boyfriend of six years. I wanted him to still be in my life no matter what. Fast forward to today, and I’m realizing that our friendship’sjust not meant to be. At least, not for the time being.

What helped me through it is focusing on the relationships I have and strengthening them. Realizing all the good that you still have, and the good that you want to accomplish, is a great way to deal with this loss. You’ll grieve and move on in your own way, but it will eventually hurt a little less. Take care, be strong.

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Aww, I’m sooo sorry hun. Just take it day by day. If it hurts too much to be his friend today, then don’t, but maybe tomorrow you’ll feel differently. It’s just one of those scenarios that you unfortunately can’t have all the solutions to immediately. Can’t do much other than roll with the punches and see where it takes you.

You’ll get through this though, without a doubt.

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Oh Jamie – I’m sorry you’re so unhappy. It will take time but eventually, eventually, it’ll all be ok again.

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oh bless your heart. this is the hardest thing ever. been there. twice, actually. i’ve dealt with it several ways, but the best/most-healthiest/mature way has been to cut every ounce of communication till you feel like you are back to you. sure, there may be fleeting thoughts of you and him, but mostly, things shift back to just you. it took me 6 solid months this last time. may sound like a long time (and it is) but the next time i saw him, i was ready and old feelings didnt rear their ugly head.

good luck. btw, crying is completely acceptable.

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I know how you feel. I just separated from my husband. Granted, I was the one that left, but to me he left a long time ago – he’s just not the same guy anymore and that was more heartbreaking than moving my things. All I can tell you is to stay strong, cause while it hurts like hell you’ll be stronger in the longer run.

Keep your friends close, and don’t forget to cry, it does help.

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There’s not much that you can say in a situation like this so I’m just sending you a really big hug.

Ready?

*HUG!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!*

Feel better bff!

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I am so sorry. I know that we’re not real friends, or even really good bloggy friends, but I saw this and my heart went out to you. I really am sorry that you’re hurting. I wish I knew the right words to say to make you feel better, but I’m afraid that feeling better will only come with time. For now, do the best you can. I wouldn’t suggest being friends with him while you’re still feeling lost. That leads to confusion, and more pain. Some day in the future, it may be possible that you can talk to him and not feel bruised or betrayed in some way. It may not be, also – and that’s ok too.

You’ll find your away again.

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Sorry J-

I always went straight for the tequila. I dont give advice about love but I do have a story. A story about a time where I tried to be friends with my ex of three years. It started off confusing. Awkward. About a year in it got better… but the friendship was totally superficial. We both spared HUGE details of our lives to spare the other person from hearing. Or possibly, we just didn’t talk about things because it was too hard. Either way, it was possible- but not everlasting.

Hope you feel better.

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Jamie, dear, I’m very sorry for your broken heart. In my experience, as hard as it is to execute, the best way to let yourself heal is to cut off all ties with him while your heart mends. It’s impossible to stay friends and heal at the same time–because those wounds will always be fresh with him in your life. It takes a crazy amount of strength to cut someone so important to you out of your life–but in times like this you have to take care of yourself in any way that you can. Give yourself some closure by saying goodbye in person. One last hug. And then… stay away from him until your heart no longer aches at the thought of being away from him. That’s how you know you’re ready to move on to the next part of your life. (Sorry if this is too blunt, but I’ve been there. And I’ve tried to stay friends, and in the end, you are the only one who is going to be punished for that decision. HUGS.)

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Hang in there baby girl. Feeling lost is only natural, but don’t try to hold anything back. Let your emotions out, talk, write, cry, however you do it. If you ever want to talk or chat, hit me up.

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I think that you need to give yourself some space and some time. I’ve tried to do the whole “let’s still be friends” thing and it pretty much always ended in disaster. They’re there as a physical embodiment of the fact that they don’t love you (at least that way) anymore. You need to have some time without him in order to move on properly. There’s nothing that says you can’t be friends in a year or so, but I really think that you need some you time to heal.

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i’m so sorry for you and the difficult feelings you have to endure because of everything.

just try to take it day-by-day.

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Oh I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I don’t know you at all but this tugged at my heart.

I think what people have said about giving yourself as much distance as you can from him for the time being is spot on. Throw yourself hard into work or projects or topiary lessons or whatever it takes, and surround yourself with people who make you laugh. Laughing is key.
If you have to talk to him, keep a limit on how often.

I can offer some hope too. My ex and I muddled through and although it was messy and ugly at times, and we certainly could have used some more time apart, four years later, we are real friends again. I know that doesn’t work for everyone, but it has for me (and Gwen Stefani), so you never know.

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aw jamie i’m so sorry. i just want to give you a big ole hug right now!

as for the friends thing, i say you take a break from each other and eventually i think you’ll be able to be friends again without it hurting and just being friends. at least that’s what i’ve learned in the past, that it definitely takes some time apart before trying a friendship again.

but really, big hugs. you rock.

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I agree with the ladies who have said cut off contact and give it time. I know how hard that sounds…honestly I got through a break up with my ex. boyf of 4.5 years like this and kept busy with long hot baths, lots of books to read and ice cream initially. Then I started trying to get out more – Did some volunteer work and hung out with friends. The things is that before this we were unhappy for about 6 months and couldn’t figure out if we should stay together or go our separate ways…and keeping in contact we were too familiar…we settled right back into familiar patterns. We couldn’t break up and keep in contact…so finally i put my foot down… said give me 30 days…and I marked it on the calendar. Before i knew it 30 days came and I didn’t even really want to talk to him… this was two and a half years ago and we occasionally talk now…but we are not best friends like we used to be.

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Aww i’m sorry to hear that.. making space might be the best thing right now, because it would hurt too much to keep in touch i think. at least you have this new venture with TPB so you will be busy and meeting a ton of new people! or better yet you may even find your soul mate at the 20SB Meetup

[hugs from boston]

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Aww, I’m sorry Jamie. I agree with what KB (and a lot of others) have suggested in that there are no hard and fast rules about what you’re supposed to do… each relationship is different and you’ll both benefit by respecting each other’s needs in order to start healing. You’ve got tons o’ folks out here that will help you keep your chin up.

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I think it would be best to wait a month or so then resume the friendship. your heart needs time to heal before it can jump from lover mode to friendship mode. if you push yourself now you’re just going to end up hurting more *hugs*

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From my experience I find the best thing for you to do is let go. It hurts so much more to try to remain a figure in each others lives. Sorry honey, eventually it will get better but it will take time

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oh honey i’m so sorry. i’ve been in this situation somewhat myself and i know how incredibly lost and lonely it feels. i know it seems hopeless now but i assure you it will get better. as cliche as it sounds, you just gotta give it a little time. put some distance between you and him and try to just clear your head and get a little perspective. and i know this is probably the last thing you wanna hear right now but if it’s meant to be it will be. honestly.

and for the time being just down a couple bottles of wine, invite your lady friends over for a sex and the city marathon and say fuck boys!! trust me, it helps!!

xoxo

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my heart is so with you. xo.

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Oh Jamie. I’ve never been with someone so long and so I can’t even imagine how this is making you feel. I’m glad that even as you were posting to say how alone you feel, you included that you know that you’re surrounded by people who care. No one here is going to judge you for how you feel, the decisions you make, or how you cope with what’s going on. Scream and throw things, cry and cuddle your pups, whatever you need to do.

You’re a strong, smart girl and you make good choices. The decision about friendship will come to you in time.

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I’m so sorry, sweetie. I just went through the end of a five-year relationship and even longer friendship, and I think it worked best for me to get completely away from him and give myself time to heal. It sucked, but it helped at the same time. Once I’ve healed a bit, then I’ll try to be friends again.

Don’t let yourself feel alone. It sounds like you’ve got some good people who want to help you through this.

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Oh, dear. I am so sorry *hugs from far away*

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I know everyone else has already said it, but I’m sorry sweetie. Sending you lots of hugs and puppy cuddles!

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I’m so sorry. Hurt-y hearts are the worst. Sometimes just giving it time makes the answer clear. Sometimes things get worse before they get better. Sometimes it’s just hard to make sense of it all. HUGS Hang in there honey.

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I’m going through the same type of ordeal after breaking things off with the fiance it has been tough not having that person in my life but the more I think about it theres a reason hes not in my life any more and thats something I’ll have to deal with. My family and friends have helped me through this a lot.

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*hugs* !

In my experience, you can be friends, but not until the heartache feels better. Take some time away, and keep good friends and good things nearby.

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Oh Jamie! I am so sorry to hear that, on top of all the things you juggle, you are having to juggle this, too. You deserve someone who is going to be just as excited to be with you as you are with them. That’s a given. Focus on that and maybe, *maybe,* it’ll make the healing process a little easier. Until the healing begins, however, try to treat yourself to special things, things that make you happy to be who you are and where you are. I wish you the best!!

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*hugs*

I’m sorry.

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i’m sorry… it gets better.. in time… i know… been there… still am there… almost out of it… but not just yet…

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This was heartbreaking to read. I know how you feel and from my experience the friend thing never works. I had to break it off completely to give myself a chance to get over him.

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Oh Jamie, I’m so sorry you’re going through this right now. I wish there was a magical cure or medicine you could take that will take all the pain away, but it’s just something you have to face day-by-day. I agree with some others, your heart needs time to heal, so spending time apart is the best thing for you. It’ll get better for you, I promise. I’ll be thinking of you!

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oh goodness jamie lovely.
i am so sorry dear friend.
that must be so hard!
it does hurt, a lot. and i
know this is so cliche, but
only time can heal a
broken heart. and even
then, it may not fully be
healed.

know we are all here for
you, and you know my
offer still stands of you
coming to cali and us
hanging and having lots
of fun

love you!

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I actually know several people going through very similar situations to this right now and everyone seems to be taking a different path. One tried to be friends but it was way too painful and she just cut off all contact. Another is having infrequent contact although he wants to be friends eventually. When it happened to me, I stayed friends without a break because I couldn’t handle the separation. I don’t think any of them is right or wrong, and the situation is going to be painful no matter what but hopefully, in time, it will get better no matter which you choose to do. And of course, everyone is here for you too.

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try because it hurts too much to lose them completely..maybe thats what i will do in the end of the days.

But first step will be to cry so much and hang with friends, try to get better after a while although it’s hard because at some points it will be better.

I’m really sorry that you’re hurt *hugs*

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Jamie, that sucks Trying to find something new to say as I echo many thoughts on taking time and space, cutting contact (at least for awhile), etc.

Sooo…in light of “He’s Just Not That Into You” being in theaters, I thought of the author’s other book that came out after that one, called “It’s called a Break Up because it’s Broken.”

The book came out shortly after I broke up with my college boyfriend. It helped. 4 years later, I can’t even tell you why or how it helped, but it did. I know, who wants to hear about a self-help book right now, but, if you’re into that kind of stuff (and we all know we like the author), check it out.

Good luck, just keep taking it day by day.

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I’m so you’re going through this. For me, I always had to step away for a while to grieve, and then come back to try friendship. Especially if my heart was more broken than his.

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Jamie, I’m thinking of you gorgeous – and have a buttload of empathy, because I almost feel in the same boat. Almost. Who knows?

I think it’s natural to feel lost – but friends, a good cry, and keeping busy will help to ease that. Hugs to you, sweetie. xx

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I’ve never been able to remain friends with an ex… it’s too much to put yourself through, especially when it wasn’t your choice to end things. Give it time, cry when you need, drink when you want. The world will be bright again.

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i am so sorry girl. everyone goes through that at one time or another. just push on – you’re amazing!

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Cupcakes? Martinis? Both?

Say the word, lady – we’ll go.

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Oh sweetheart. For me, it went something like this:

Cry so much you think that literally, seriously, it’s never going to end. Question the purpose of life and every single thing you’re doing. Call your mom, a lot. Call her more. Have a nervous breakdown and fly across the country for the weekend to be with her. Cry more. Obsess more. Email him, suggest being friends. Cry when he says it’s too soon. Cry more. Laugh when people tell you that “everyone goes through this” and that “all you need is time.” Cut people when they tell suggest that “what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger.” Cry more. Either eat way too much or way too little. Cry. Sleep a lot. Whine to everyone who will listen about how you’re positive he’s over you and also positive that you’ll never get over him. Get really drunk. Get even more drunk and yell about the unfair cruelty of life. Pass out. Repeat. Think about him when you first wake up, and then think about him all day, and then before you go to sleep. Cry. Miss class. Try to be friends because he’s ready. Flirt. Sleep with him while telling yourself that “you’re totally fine being friends with benefits.” Feel happy again. Sleep with him on a regular basis. Freak out when you realize that in fact, you’re NOT FINE. Decide to not speak to him until you’re ready, whatever that means. Temporarily cut him out of your life. Put a little pink star in your planner for every day that you don’t talk to him. Feel insanely proud when you get to three stars. Cry. Attempt to move on with your life. Get to 10 stars. Cry, but less frequently. Get to 20 stars. Realize he’s not always the first thing you think of in the morning. Stop crying. Get to 30 stars. Literally throw yourself a party. Continue with the stars and the daily managing of the pain. Realize that your mom might not have been a complete and total crack addict when she said that time would heal you.

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I’m so sorry Jamie … I’ve been thinking about you … xoxo

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Oh Jamie it’s a horrible situation, especially when you’re such good friends. Maybe you can forge a new kind of friendship but you both need to take a little time out from each other at the moment to adjust to your new lives.

I don’t know, everyone is different but all you can do is try and get through each day x

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I know that hallow feeling and I am so sorry you’re exxperiencing it..big hugs to you…

Princess Extraordinaires last blog post..The Lump

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I’m so sorry. you’ve gotten a lot of really great advice so I won’t bother to repeat it, but I just wanted you to know that I’m thinking about you. Sending lots of virtual hugs your way from New York <3

Jacqueline @ Miss Musings last blog post..Today was my boyfriend

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I’m so sorry you feel that way and this is happening to you. I’ll be thinking of you and hoping that, in time, you’ll find yourself again.

xx

Hopes last blog post..Internet, I am confused

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I’m so angry and hurt FOR you, Jamie.

The only way I’ve coped with heartbreak has been NO communication – and finding a reason to really dislike him. Being angry made it easier to not feel the hurt.

I always see my girl friends continue to talk to ex’s, and it just makes it so much messier.

Know that there are lots of people who really, truly care about you. We’re here if you need anything. At all. (Including, but not limited to: guest blog posts, kicking someone in the balls, doing Etsy scouting for you, and sending chocolate.)

xoxo

ashley.stars last blog post..Have Passport. Will Travel.

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I’m so sorry to see that you’re going through this….it’s awful, and I agree with you in the sense that you don’t understand how someone can just change like that, when you can’t seem to be able to change how you feel…it sucks. I’ll be thinking positive/happy thoughts for you all the way from MA!

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Girl, I know exactly how you feel. If you’ve been reading my blog, I’m going through the same thing. It was the hardest time of my life. Honestly, don’t talk to him. It’s what helped me. I know he was your best friend and so was mine, but in order to get over him, you need to just not talk at all. I promise.

If you want to talk I’m here!

Jessicas last blog post..Leaving On A Jet Plane…..In 99 Days

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Ugh… I’m so sorry! Break ups are so painful…

I wish I had some comforting words, but time and distractions were what I needed to heal during similiar times.

One Step At At Times last blog post..Grace In Small Things 5/365

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*hugs* Oh, Jamie. I am so sorry. It will get better and easier, I promise.

If you need someone to talk to, I’m here.

E.P.s last blog post..Grace in Small Things, 2/365

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oh, lady! I’m so sorry! Maybe in time it will be easier to have a friendship. Maybe a break for awhile would help. Sending good thoughts!

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oh hon i am so so sorry! i’ve been there, as you probably read last year. i know that it’s hard to hear, but you can and will get through this. i know you probably want to punch people in the face that tell you that, i did (well not actually punched them, but you know what i mean). thinking of you and please let me know if you ever want to vent via email or gchat. i will listen.

Michelle & the Citys last blog post..We Are Just Breakable Girls & Boys

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by the way – I sincerely hope I did not come off as insensitive with my initial comment. I still fully stand by it, but WOAH do I know that the heart does NOT listen to logic in any way, shape or form and it’s effin’ frustrating.

and i am really, really sorry that you’re going through this right now.

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Sorry to hear that, Jamie.

Traviss last blog post..Shakedown 1979

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J,

I love you so much. You know that, right?! Just wanted to reiterate that.

I’ve found from past relationships (and I’m coming to realize just how many I’ve freaking had) that directly after the break up you have to cut each other out. This doesn’t mean that with time, you can’t become friends. But, especially when the break up isn’t mutual, it’s like freaking torture. You have to separate yourself from that person/situation for a while. In a few months you can revisit the whole being friends issue. At least that’s what has worked best for me in the past.

If you need to talk, you know where to find me.
Love you!

Samtaterss last blog post..Inauggie day!

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I know people say “I know what you’re going through” and don’t always mean it…but seriously, I know what you’re going through. My best friend of 4 years and boyfriend of 2 broke up with me. I didn’t know what to do.

It gets easier with time. Lot’s of time. You’ll go through the normal break up stages, but once you reach anger you’ll start feeling a bit better. Try not to speak to him for right now, as hard as it is. Give yourself time to heal. Be with friends, have girly nights. Just try to slowly let go. Eventually you might be able to be friends again. Hope for that. It’ll be better than losing him completely.

As for now, take care of yourself. You’ll get through this. You’re a fighter.

Laurens last blog post..Have no fear, Brooklyns here

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Oh, Jamie. I wish all of us could be there to hug you and comfort you. You are truly an incredible person, and I hate to know that you are hurting right now…

You are in my thoughts, my dear.

wishcakes last blog post..on a photo and some words…

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Oh I’m just so, so sorry. There is nothing worse than losing that person in your life. I know it hurts like nothing else right now, but you will get through it. Take it day by day and try not to lose yourself in the process of healing. I’m confident you’ll come out of this stronger and more resilent than ever. In the meantime, I’m glad you have friends (in person and on here) who can be there to support you.

Lizzies last blog post..Rugrats

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Everybody loves you sooooo much. I have no great advice but just wanted to say that you are loved!

michelle woos last blog post..Not Skinny

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I just read this post (sorry so late) – and I’m sorry to hear about your troubles. No matter what, remember that you’re this amazing woman that has the ability to do anything you put your mind to. Which includes having the strength to face such situations. Love you! xo

jessica marias last blog post..Cause your words don’t translate.

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I’m so sorry to hear this. *Sending lots of hugs*

bFlats last blog post..Macbook

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Hey there,
There really isn’t much to be said right now to make you feel better. The only thing I’d remind you is that time really does heal all wounds. It will get better…just not right now. Hang in there and lean on your friends. They’re the best way through it all. You’re never really alone.

Take care, ok?

Lippys last blog post..A Passage

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*sigh*

Sometimes letting go is the best thing to do. Take the time you’re going to need to mend. It’s one of the most difficult things to navigate so I don’t want to on with any real advice. Let your heart & your mind tell you what to do next.

Only you know how you really feel.

xoxoxo

Sherisa of L’élephant Roses last blog post..012: i {heart} Tinker and Po

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I’m so sorry, honey. I’ve been there, and for me, I had to cut him out of my life completely. It hurt too much to try to just have a friendship. You’ll know what’s right for you. Remember, as much as it hurts right now, time does heal all wounds and you will get through this. Thinking of you…

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Nice to see so many people coming to give you great advice!

It does hurt. But as opposed to what a lot of people will say — I say let it hurt for at least a healthy amount. You need to know what you’re going through is real, and valid, so don’t try to deny it.

Why? Because the heart is kind of like the skeleton, where broken bones heal to be stronger than they were before. But first, comes the hurt. And oh, how it hurts.

All you have to do is be ready to let it hurt, no matter what actions you choose from here on in; but don’t let the hurt get the best of you. Obviously the light at the end of the tunnel isn’t even visible right now. But you’ll come out of it stronger. Eventually. Trust me on this one.

nicopolitans last blog post..Catching-the-eff-Up!

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You do anything it takes to make yourself happy. You overindulge in chocolate. You drink a bit too much. You lean on your friends.

I’m so sorry that you’re going through this.

Kims last blog post..Songs In My Head

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you let yourself feel the pain. cry. yell. be bitter. feel alone. you can only get through it by being real with yourself. trying to forget or distract yourself will only bury the emotions and they will come bubbling back.

the good news is….every minute. every day. every week. every month. it gets easier. and one day you will realize you are happier without him. so much happier.

lots of hugs.

chickbugs last blog post..we heart you.

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I know how you feel. I am there, I have been there since September. My break-up never ends. The worst part is waking up in the morning and realizing that it’s not a bad dream – my bestfriend isn’t there. Hope you get thorugh it soon!

Carinas last blog post..Lessons in Love: From the girls of The Hills

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Oh, sweetie. Big big enormous hugs. You deserve someone who can love you with the enormity you can love them. I hope you are well.

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I would be happy now to be friends with my ex who I was with for five years during most of high school and some of college. I was lost for a few years after it was over, but time has gone by and it’s true – it really does heal all wounds! You’ll see!

Katies last blog post..more on V-day in NYC

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Oh man. I just came across your blog, and when I saw this post, I automatically related. I dated someone for 4 years and had all the same questions. At this point I’m sure you don’t want to hear it’ll be okay, so my advice is to just go with it. Feel the ups and downs and just keep yourself busy when you want and dwell when you want. Life will take care of everything else. Hang in there!

Mollys last blog post..my 20’s thus far. the highlights.

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Pretty sure I wrote this post! Wow, talk about relating to someone’s words. EVERY single word.
If you figure any of the answers out, let me know. I’m still lost…

Ambers last blog post..Questions on my mind…

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i’m sure youve gotten this already but i know how you feel, i lost my best friend and lover of 3 yrs to another girl and i felt so very broken and very unfixable. i just take it day by day and step by step and just have faith that everything happens for a reason. i hope your doing ok. i’ve been there and back and i know there isnt much i can say so just know you arent alone.

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oh, lady! I'm so sorry! Maybe in time it will be easier to have a friendship. Maybe a break for awhile would help. Sending good thoughts!

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